What's there to know about how to wear sexy bras and lingerie? It's pretty obvious. You just put it on, right? It also depends on your definition of "sexy."

Lingerie brands have their own view. A Victoria's Secret Very Very Sexy bra is about padding---lifting boobs and creating cleavage. Browse the Sexy Bra section at Frederick's of Hollywood and you'll find push-ups and open-cup shelf bras.

Embroidered Liquid Lift Balconette Bra

But these popular looks don't flatter every size or shape. Plus, our unique bodies rarely look like the retouched images featured in glossy fashion spreads.

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So what should we do if we want to wear sexy bras or lingerie for ourselves, or someone special? Here are a few tips:

1) Discover your own personal style. What makes you feel sensual and alluring? You can gravitate toward pretty pastels, bold prints, or leather. A sheer bralette or embroidered full-cup bra could be sexier on you than a padded push-up. Be open to possibilities; you may find more than one style to suit your moods.

Something Else Lace Longline Bralette

2) Think outside the bra. Flirty babydolls, silky chemises, and satiny slips are all super practical and sexy items to add to any lingerie wardrobe. There's no rule that everyday intimates can't be sexy, too.

Parfait by Affinitas Alexis Babydoll

3) Embrace change. Boobs and bodies change, especially in pregnancy and as we age. That doesn’t mean we have to give up wearing seductive or provocative underthings. But it may require us to adapt to new sizes or a different fit in some garments. Sometimes all we need is to welcome new lingerie possibilities.

Amber Plum Maternity Nursing Bra

4) Make up your mind. Most sexy lingerie ads are geared to pleasing the heterosexual male gaze. But what turns one person on, or off, is subjective and arbitrary. Wearing sexy bras and other lingerie may be more about adjusting our own attitude. After all, the sexist thing any woman can wear in the bedroom is self-confidence.

Do you wear sexy bras or other lingerie? What styles appeal to you? Have your tastes changed over time? Let us know in the comments below.

Featured image: Luxe Lace Over Satin Bralette via Frederick's of Hollywood